A Scary Holiday

Posted on November 22, 2011 by osdreyuj

The holidays are right around the corner and should be a joyous and happy occasion to share with friends, family and loved ones. Unfortunately this is a time where domestic violence occurs most often. For some, this holiday season will be a scary and frightening time. As statistics show, women and children will experience one or more types of abuse. Domestic Violence doesn’t discriminate. It happens n every type of households in every religion, race, financial background, language and origin. We need to educate ourselves to the different types of abuse there are. It’s not just the physical abuse that is a problem, there are many different types. the most common types of abuse that will be experienced around the holidays are:

neglect

physical abuse

sexual abuse

emotional abuse

Here are a few signs of an Abusive Relationship:

Calling you offensive or derogatory names or insults your intelligence

Humiliating you in front of other people

Threatens you with physical violence, abandonment, or harm to others you love

Threatens to harm them self if you leave the relationship or agree to their wishes

Shows excessive jealousy around your friends and family

Isolates you from friends, family, or your community

Tries to control what you wear, eat, say, spend time with, spend money on, etc.

Blames you for their actions

Threatens to ‘out’ you as a lesbian, gay, bisexual or trans-gender person

Threatens to infect you with an illness, like a sexually transmitted infection

Withholds or threatens to withhold medication

Hurts you physically in any way

Pressures you into having any sexual contact against your will

Becomes violent or controlling when they are under the influence of drugs or alcohol

Is violent towards animals or people

Steals money from you, or wont allow you access your own money

Tries to stop you from working or making money

The more we know about domestic violence the better we are able to see the signs of abuse and maybe stop ourselves from getting into those types of relationships. We will also be able to see signs if someone we know and love is in an unhealthy relationship. We will be able to be there for them if they need our help. I myself was in an abusive relationship and I’m very grateful to my family and friends for being there to support me when I myself needed the help. All I know is that I didn’t have the strength to do it for myself,but I knew I had to do it for my children. I didn’t want my daughter to think it was normal for a man to treat her the way I had been treated. I didn’t want my son to become an abuser to women. What ever your reason is, just know that you desire not to live in fear.

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Long Distance Relationship – What to Keep in Mind

Posted on November 22, 2011 by osdreyuj

Long Distance Relationships are not like any other relationship, and while talking of it, there are a few things which one should do and few things which one shouldn’t do. However, just reading tips and advices will not work for you unless you plan to work on it and execute it. Just like any other relationship, it takes effort from both the partners to make such a relationship successful.

Below are few things which you must take care of when in a long distance relationship.

Build a Common Interest: It would be very effective if both of you have something in common which you would like to do as a hobby. Say for example, you and your partner both love jazz, this would give you a topic to talk on every time you talk to each other, it will also make your bond stronger as both of you will see each other as a good friend and not just a partner.

Surprises work wonders: Nobody likes shocks, but we all like surprises, sweet little surprises, don’t we? Keep giving surprises to your partner like sending a card, or flowers or a box of chocolates or even a cute little poem written by you. Remember, it’s not the big and expensive gifts that matter, it’s the feelings and the fact that you care for your partner is what matters the most and can make a big difference.

Never take it For Granted: Your partner may be too kind, but never take him/her for granted. We all have a limit of patience, and one must not test that limit when in a relationship, be it a long distance relationship or a short distance relationship. Some of the very common mistakes which people make are, forgetting the important dates like, his/her birthday, the first time when both of them met and the list goes on.

Make a meet up plan: So what if you’re in a long distance relationship, meeting once in a while is very much possible. Try to plan up a meeting, fix a date when it would be possible for both of you to meet each other. Meeting can really rejuvenate a relationship.

Trust is what it’s all bout: Never be suspicious. Suspicion is like a disease which keeps on growing and keeps corroding a relationship and ultimately kills it. Always have faith in your partner, if there is anything about him/her that is bothering you then be open and discuss with your partner. Often it’s the communication gap which creates misunderstandings and leaves a big room for suspicion to grow.

Apart from all this, it always takes efforts from both ends to make a long distance relationship work and grow stronger each day. Never let your ego overpower you. In love and relationships, there is no place for ego. Be understanding, empathetic and just be honest.  Don’t care about what people are saying about your relationship, just listen to your mind and heart, just do what you feel what is right for you and your relationship will definitely work.

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Show Your Sensual Side With Boudoir Photography

Posted on November 22, 2011 by osdreyuj

Boudoir photography is an excellent way to explore your inner goddess and to display your sensuality for your own enjoyment or as a special gift to the one you love. These tastefully done photos are a great gift idea for birthdays, Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, weddings, or any other special occasion. Regardless of your age, shape, or level of modesty, there is a boudoir photo shoot that will bring out your best and will provide the perfect, personalized gift for your special someone.

You can have boudoir photography sessions ranging from fully clothed in sensual attire to partially dressed or, for the more bold and confident, completely nude. Shots are taken of a variety of poses and in the wardrobe of your choice. All poses and pictures are artistic and tasteful and even the completely nude shots are done in a way that will preserve your integrity and class. Many boudoir photographers have a selection of props and their own set. They will also often schedule the shoot for a location of your choosing so you can further customize your experience.

In the beginning, boudoir photography had a bit of a social stigma attached, as many saw it as low-class, trashy, or pornographic. The art has evolved, however, and increasing numbers of women are seeing this as an excellent way to show their love to that special someone. One of the most popular types of session now is that of brides posing for their future husbands. Many of these new brides present an album of boudoir poses, including those wearing only a wedding veil, high heels, and stockings, as a surprise wedding gift to their new husbands.

Regardless of your age, size, or the way you see yourself, you will find that a quality boudoir photography session will bring out your inner beauty and will give a great boost to your self-confidence. Seeing how beautiful you truly are in your finished photos or seeing the face of your loved one light up when you present your gift will make you glad you took the chance and posed for your gorgeous boudoir photographs.

If you want to have a boudoir session, find a photographer that offers exclusive, personal and private photography service. Also make sure the photographer has experience for women seeking a much needed confidence boost that can offer glamour portfolios and adult natured photography at the highest standard using custom sets created from fabulous wallpapers and gorgeous furniture.

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Could What Your Mom Told You Be Wrong?

Posted on November 22, 2011 by osdreyuj

Are you scratching your head wondering if this is it? You grew up believing you can do and achieve everything and out you went to conquer the business world. Perhaps your mom engrained in your brain how important it was to be successful and independent. She might have even told you that you don’t need a man in your life and to make sure you can take care of yourself.

So here you are now single, successful and you can take of yourself. You have a nice home, great friends and an active social life. Maybe you are at a point where you are thinking about what’s next, or even what’s missing? You keep listening to Beyonce sing, “All the single ladies, if you like it, you shoulda put a ring on it.” Listening to that song may have you scratching your head and wondering how it is possible that you are still single when you have so much to offer.

In order to start your journey, you must first have the mindset that you will never give up. It doesn’t matter where you are or where you have been as long as you continue to strive for what you want. If you want to be in a loving, committed relationship then you need to take a look at your habits, beliefs and mindset and form a recipe of success so you can have it all.

If you want a relationship, you can have one. You must continue on your journey. If you stop and give up, all your hopes and dreams stop too.

Your road might be bumpy but it will be worth it. You might date guys that drive you crazy and it might take you longer than you want it to, but you can achieve the happily ever after you want.

If you have a bad date or day, focus on not letting that one date affect your overall mindset. Many times we are quick to revert to negative self talk and say things like “I will never find anyone” or “all the good men are taken”. When you start to feel these negative emotions coming through, take control of them and use them to fuel your desire for success. Immediately say the exact opposite. Try, “my ideal mate is right around the corner” or “Mr. Right is looking for me.”

Work on having a mindset that sees and believes you will be in the relationship of your dreams, no matter what. Changing the way you think and having a positive and determined mindset for your journey is the key to your success and happiness.

At the same time, embrace your successes. Enjoy the fact that you can take care of yourself and be okay with the thought that now your vision has changed and includes having a successful relationship. Believe it is possible to have it all and that you deserve it.

It sounds easy enough but, chances are, you are going to have to develop some new habits, especially since psychologists claim that 90% of behavior is habitual. This means if you want some different results, you might need to give up some habits.

You can start by thinking of your daily routine. Do you have time in your schedule to find Mr. Right? Is your schedule filled with procrastination items like paying the bills, returning phone calls, working late?

Really take stock of what might be limiting you and make room to find Mr. Right. This means look at any of your negative habits and replace them with productive habits. Develop a system that will support you with finding the man of your dreams.

For example, if you always work late because you are not a morning person, try going into work early and leaving on time for a couple of days a week. Schedule something right at the close of your work day that you have to go to. Think about a class you are interested in taking, going to the gym, or meeting a friend. If you haven’t met him at work yet, chances are, you need to get out of the office. This one habit could make a huge difference.

Your mom is right about one thing. You can have everything you want. Now you just have to decide what that is.

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Car Bumper

Posted on November 22, 2011 by osdreyuj

How do you fix a polyester or plastic bumper?

You know, a little too far forward or backwards and you hear a little crack. With a polyester or plastic bumper do you have soon a crack or break even slightly. But rest assured, this could very well be repaired.Well, you good to check the bumper of polyester or plastic.

Important:

The following only polyester bumpers. If you repair plastic bumpers with polyester may eventually crack.

For plastic bumpers, you can use the same method, then substitute for polyester or Plasticol Dinitrol Plastic repair putty 6070. These are a kind of two component paste. Dinitrol only in gray to get Plasticol in different colors. It gives the plastic a durable outcome.Here an explanation of how a polyester damage repairs itself.

I explain below, step by step how you can repair your bumper. The same process can also be used if the “raw black bumper” in the color of your car, you spray.

What you need:

* Fine mesh netting.

* Repairkit.

* Polyester mats.

* A bus polyester resin. (use good quality)

* Polyester hardener.

* Plastic tray and plastic spatula. (for mixing the components)

* Rubber gloves. (And old clothes, because dried polyester is virtually no more of clothes.)

* Waterproof Sandpaper. (grit 600 and 200)

How to do it:

* Remove the bumper and put it down so that you look at all sides of the damage can get.

* Cut the wire to fit the hole so it fits perfectly. (it should just stay clip)

* Glue the wire with one end attached to the bumper with the repairkit and let it dry thoroughly. (mix it in proportion!)

* Now cut the polyester mats tailored for the hole. After the thickness, using multiple mats.

* Make some repairkit with hardener and mix well. Stir one last note pad so that it is soaked with the mixture.

* Take this mat and place it in the hole. and press gently on the gauze with a plastic spatula.

* Repeat as many times as necessary until the hole is well filled.

* Make sure you always good at ironing mats so that no air bubbles between the surface and sit falcon as tight as possible.

* The tighter the mats in the hole are the better the end result will be.

* Allow to dry thoroughly.

* If everything is dry you can rub the bumper tight. (The polyester mats do not!)

* Create a volume of polyester resin with hardener, lubrication of all irregularities. Also where you have made the polyester mats. Do this so that the smoothest possible surface.

* Allow this to harden calm.

* Now the whole Sand again so that a perfectly smooth surface. You can use coarse sandpaper begin and end with 600 grit.

* Remember to use enough water that you regularly updated!

* If the whole is perfectly smooth and you are happy with this result you can see the bumper in the primer spray.

* Now it’s a matter of good finishes with paint and varnish.

It is important that you take time: “The more attention you devote to this work, the better the result.”

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He Who Believed Man Can Fly

Posted on November 22, 2011 by osdreyuj

Believe the unbelievable! And create the impossible! This is the nature of Growth Stars. They do it because it’s fun. It is like discovering a new toy.

The Wright Brothers were credited with building and inventing the world’s first successful airplane. The Wright Brothers were not the ones who first built and flew experimental aircraft but they were the ones who first to invented aircraft controls that made fixed-wing powered flight possible, allowing planes to fly a longer distance and time.

Wilbur Wright was born on 16 April 1867 at 1 a. m. His BaZi chart is shown below.

Wilbur Wright’s BaZi Chart contains Ding Mao in the Year Pillar, Jia Chen in the Month Pillar, Bing Yin in the Day Pillar and Yi Wei in the Hour Pillar ([Hour] Yi Wei | [Day] Bing Yin | [Month] Jia Chen | [Year]).

While the younger brother, Orville Wright, was born on 19 August 1871 at 5 p. m. Below is his BaZi chart.

Orville Wright’s BaZi Chart contains Xin Wei in the Year Pillar, Bing Shen in the Month Pillar, Ren Chen in the Day Pillar and Gui Mao in the Hour Pillar ([Hour] Gui Mao | [Day] Ren Chen | [Month] Bing Shen | [Year] Xin Wei).

While both brothers had the spirit of creation of the Growth Star, they lacked the friendliness and joyfulness among peers which should be found in a Growth Star personality. This was because both of their Growth Stars were also Indirect Resources Star. Both brothers were known to shy away from the crowd and the lime light.

Whilst both brothers were equally recognised for inventing the airplane, it was Wilbur who was actually the idea man and the force behind making the idea a reality. Wilbur’s BaZi chart showed an Eating God Structure which denotes a talent as a creator. Both his Direct Resource and Indirect Resource Stars penetrated to the stems showing a strong analytical skill. The influence of both Resource Stars enabled him to come out with creative ideas and transform it into realistic form, method or system with supporting facts and data. This is the flow of yin to yang of Indirect to Direct Resource star and vice versa.

Orville, although with an Indirect Resource Structure in his Bazi chart, was more of an entrepreneur than a creator due the influence of the Indirect Wealth Star on the stem of the month as well as the Seven Killing Star on the day branch. This was seen in him starting off a printing business, later joined by Wilbur. Together they opened a bicycle repair and sale shop and started manufacturing their own bicycles, capitalising on the bicycle craze at that time. It was always Orville and hissister, Katherine Wright, who signed off all the important documents in the airplane manufacturing business.

Although, the Wright Brothers were credited for inventing the plane, it was their sister, Katherine Wright, who really showed-off the Growth Star spirit. She was born on 19 August 1874, time unknown. Below was her BaZi chart.

Katherine Wright’s BaZi Chart contains Jia Xu in the Year Pillar, Ren Shen in the Month Pillar, Wu Shen in the Day Pillar and Hour Pillar unknown ([Hour] — | [Day] Wu Shen | [Month] Ren Shen | [Year] Jia Xu).

Katherine was the one who organised her two brothers’ social affairs which were mess due to their shy natures. Being far more outgoing and charming than her brothers, Katherine dominated the social scene. The French press christened her “the third Wright brother” and she received the Legion of Honour from them. She became the connection between her two shy brothers and the outside world.

The three became the great pack of the Bing, Wu and Ren, the three stems that are always good to be seen together. They never separated until Wilbur died of typhoid fever and later Katherine married her childhood sweetheart Henry Haskell at the age of 52. His brother, Orville, saw her marriage as a betrayal and disowned her.

Gossip Column

With so many Indirect Resource Stars and Eating God Stars in Wilbur, Orville and Katherine’s BaZi chart, their strong bond looked rather unusual.

Wilbur Wright’s BaZi chart also shared some similarity with Adolf Hitler’s who was rumoured to have sexual fetishes that affected the mental well-being of his close partners. The Wright brothers never married. Why Orville had such a strong reaction to his sister’s marriage was a real puzzle.

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There Was A Time When Radio Was Fun

Posted on November 22, 2011 by osdreyuj

I just came across a Facebook page called “I WAS A DJ WHEN DJS JOCKED DISCS…AND I DON’T MEAN CD’s”. It brought back a lot of radio memories for me. For many years of my life, radio was a huge part of it and now it is almost non-existent. I find that sad in many ways. I know nothing stays the same and that’s okay, what a boring world it would be if it did, but radio changed for all the wrong reasons. For me radio was fun, exciting and truly entertaining and now it is boring, redundant and mostly irritating.

I am old enough that I can remember before we had a TV in our home and we would listen to the radio. I listened to Red Skelton, Amos and Andy and lots of other radio shows. Then about the time I started junior high school I started listening to music radio. I grew up listening to KLIF in Dallas and KFJZ in Fort Worth during the day and stations like KOMA in Oklahoma City, WNOE in New Orleans and WLAC in Nashville at night. WLAC is where I discovered black music and fell in love.

KOMA,WNOE, KLIF, KFJZ and KXOL were great top 40 stations and had some of the best jocks in the world. Randy Robbins, Mark Stevens, Paxton Mills, Rex Miller, Dave Ambrose, Jimmy Rabbit, Frank Jolly, C.C. Courtney, and Charlie Van Dyke to mention a few. Always high energy, lots of reverb and always entertaining. It was fun radio.

I was fortunate enough to work in markets that were very competitive which forced us to be more creative on the air. I worked at KXOL where we were in a tough battle with KFJZ. In San Antonio at KONO, where we went head to head with KTSA. While I was in Denver at KTLK we battled KIMN. Finally at KRLY in Houston, I was up against KILT and KRBE. The fun part is that everybody knew everybody and we had fun together. We respected our competition and yet did everything we could do to beat them. This resulted in radio that was truly entertaining, and the real winner was the listener.

Radio stations use to be owned by people who loved radio and only had a few stations each. Now they are owned by huge corporations and run by people (mostly lawyers and accountants) who don’t have a clue to what radio is about. There is no competition and no creativity, just sister stations because most of the radio stations today are owned by four companies.

I don’t spend time grumbling about today’s radio, as I said before everything changes. I am just grateful I got to work in radio with some great talent such as Tim Kelly, Steve Sellers, John Steel, Bob Moody, Harry Scarbough, Cris Cooper, B. Bailey Brown, Chuck Joseph, Mike Wade, Ron Foster, Ron Seldon, Johnny Shannon, Paul Kirby, Phil Gardner and C.C. McCartney just to name a few. It was fun and exciting for the people listening and for the folks who were on the air.

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Avoiding Excessive or Uneven Front Tire Wear

Posted on November 22, 2011 by osdreyuj

All rubber tires wear down over time, whether they’re on a motorcycle or automobile. However, you want to watch out for uneven or excessive wear, both of which can cause serious problems for motorcycle riders. If you pay attention to the following causes of excessive and uneven wear, you will extend the life of your tires and keep yourself safe:

1. Improper Tire Pressure – We have all heard about the importance of maintaining proper tire pressure at all times. Improper air pressure in your tire is a big reason for many tire problems and failures. Be sure your tires have the recommended pressure in them at all times.

2. Humped Roads — Most roads are “humped” slightly in the middle or banked away from the center to allow rain and water to drain off. However, this hump can have a dramatic effect on one side of your motorcycle’s front tire because the side of the tire closer to the center of the road will wear faster. There’s not much you can do about this, and it can become very visible if you ride a lot. So be aware of this phenomenon and check the left side of your front tire often.

3. Disproportionate Cupping — Cupping is a normal phenomenon on rubber tires that occurs when the brakes are applied. However, excessive use of the front brake can produce disproportionate cupping, when one side of the tire is more cupped than the other. Using the front brake will naturally put more pressure and force on the front tire to make it stop, thereby using up more rubber.

4. Wheel Alignment – While this problem is not as common on motorcycles as it is on cars, it causes uneven tire wear. Any number of things can cause wheel misalignment on motorcycles, including getting into a fender bender, riding over potholes, jumping over sidewalks and curbs, etc. It is a good idea to have your wheel alignment checked out at least once a year to make sure that a misalignment isn’t unevenly wearing your front tire.

5. Shock Absorbers — A bad shock absorber can wreak havoc on the handling of your bike and promotes uneven front tire wear. So make sure your shocks are in good shape.

6. Improper Loading — The final major problem to keep in mind is improper loading of your bike, which causes your front tire to wear unevenly. Proper weight distribution is essential to being able to handle and steer your bike safely. Loading down one side of your saddlebag with tools or equipment can keep you from riding as vertically as possible, creating uneven tire wear.

So check your tires frequently, and keep these causes in mind if you begin noticing excessive or uneven front tire wear. Having the knowledge and taking the proper precautions will not only make you a safer rider but will prolong the life of your bike’s tires.

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Definitely the Best Things to Remember If You Want to Get an Ex Back Right Away!

Posted on November 22, 2011 by osdreyuj

You will definitely want to remember these few simple things if you want to get an ex back.

The pain of breakup is so intense that I cannot compare any sort of pain to the heart breaking, gut wrenching, mind piercing grief that a breakup can cause.

OMG…been there, done that! The only thing that I am certain of in my life (with the exception of death and taxes…LOL) is that I never want to experience that again! Never! Never! Ever! Did I say NEVER?

Does breaking up mean that you cannot get an ex back?

Nope! In fact, did you know that 90% of the time there is no reason why a couple cannot reconcile. You CAN get your ex back after breaking up. All you need to know are the steps that are necessary.

The first thing you’ll want to do is think about the reason that tore you apart. Do you even know what really happened? In most cases, you would be inclined to be so busy mourning the death of the relationship that you never even think about what happened.

No, there is no magic time machine that you can step into and go back into the past. You can’t change what happened. If you could go into the past and prevent the breakup from occurring eventually the same thing would probably happen at a later time anyway.

The breakup of your relationship may have been the result of a single event. If that’s the case then you need to go to your ex and talk about it. Really communicate. Do not get into a heated discussion by being all dramatic about it, but discuss it calmly and reasonably.

Maybe the relationship breakup was caused by one of those “straw that broke the camel’s back” type of situations. There might have been some sort of repeated behavior that your ex simply could not deal with anymore. Find out what the problem is. If this is the case, figure it out with your ex and make sure that you take steps to insure that it won’t happen again.

Remember not to come off looking and reacting like a needy person. We both know that you are (you NEED your ex back, right?), but you don’t want your ex to realize that. Of course you feel like you cannot live without your love, but there is no point in making this a glaring issue. This is not attractive behavior.

Display comfort and self confidence. After all, if you are not happy with yourself how can you expect someone else to be happy with you?

One of the worst things that you can possibly do is try and make your ex jealous. Believe me…this usually backfires on you. If you are hanging all over someone else to make your ex jealous then your ex will probably just see it as an indication that they should move on because, obviously, you already have.

That’s a bummer! Big time!

You want your ex to see that you are doing okay, but you do not want to push them into moving on and start pursuing someone else. If you want to get an ex back you have to show them that you are strong and confident enough in yourself to be happy. Then they will be inspired to get back with you!

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Tips on Writing Classifieds for Bisexual Women

Posted on November 22, 2011 by osdreyuj

When writing out your classified ad in search of other women to date, be sure to always begin with an attention grabbing title which will enable your ad to stand out from the crowd. It is also important to always remain positive with regards to what you are looking for. Focus on what you value and want in a relationship. Avoid mentioning everything that went wrong in your last relationship as an example of what you don’t want.

Be creative about your interests. Cliches such as “long walks on the beach and romantic candlelit dinners” have been overused. Mention instead how you are planning a cross country drive in support of endangered animals. Be specific about the qualities that you are looking for in your potential partner. Be especially clear about how you feel about children, drugs and alcohol. Indicate your willingness to travel and whether you are allergic to pets. Before posting your classified, be sure to check it for any spelling or grammatical errors. Reading a poorly written classified can be a great turn off for your potential mate.

It’s always fun to respond to and place classified ads, as long as you keep an open mind and don’t set your expectations too high. Keep your classified as current as possible. You may also ask your friends to give you feedback on your ad so as to enable you to put your best foot forward. And if you have already met a woman that you are interested in, be sure to take down your classified.

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